"Hi! Wow, I haven't seen you in FOREVER!!! How ARE you?!"
"So busy!! But good! You?"
Sound familiar? This reply to "How are you?" is like my default auto-reply.
I don't know if I say it because I'm trying to explain away why I haven't stayed in touch more...or because I feel like it implies that things are going so well because I have so much to do...but if I don't take a beat to actually think before responding to this question, inevitably, this is what comes out of my mouth (or my fingers!) every time!
Why is that?
Real quick, let's get the introductions out of the way, shall we?
Welcome! Nice to meet you!
I'm Kelly Gabel and I help over-achieving women pursue their creative passions without sacrificing a stable work/life balance.
I am so glad you are here and taking the first steps towards finding that all-important balance so that you can do "all the things" without sacrificing the things that really matter to you.
Just in case we've never met, you might want to check out the following blogs I wrote too. You're gonna love 'em!
You will also love the She Creates Community too! Come join us!
What is it about being busy that we are so proud of? I mean, do we really think that our life is supposed to be so frenetic that we barely know what day it is or where we are at any given moment? I know I don't!
I'm not sure when it started, but at some point in time, we (ladies especially!) started to fill our time with a crazy list of "to-do's".
✔ clean house
✔ make dinner (healthy and from scratch, of course!)
✔ work 9 to 5
✔ workout at least 5 times a week
✔ start a side hustle
✔ be superwife/mom/daughter/sister/friend, etc.
(I could go on and on, but you get the gist, I'm sure)
Aren't you exhausted?!! I know I am!!!!!
When did busyness become a badge of honor in our society?
When did we decide that if we have time each day to sit and self-reflect or, God forbid, relax, then we are doing something wrong?
And ya know what? There is nothing wrong with having things to do. The problem is, somewhere down the line, our self-worth became tied to the length of our list and how successfully we complete it.
I don't know when it happened or how I fell into the trap, but I have a feeling I'm here in good company and I think it's time we rewrite this story, don't you?!
Let's start by writing that default auto-reply, shall we?
Rather than saying
"So busy!! But good! You?"
I'm gonna say
"Amazing! Working hard and feeling great! You?"
Ok, now you. Rewrite your default auto-reply in the comments!
'Til next time,
You have big goals and you have big responsibilities. I know you because I am you!
Let me help you create a balance in your life so that you can show up fully for your family, for your job, and for yourself.